By Dr. Thomas
Haller and Chick Moorman

Tragic,
senseless, and unexplainable. Unimaginable! Yet, there it was spread all over
newspapers, blogs, and the airways. Nonstop television coverage was and still
is being broadcast into most of our homes.

Horrifying
images of children, parents, first responders, and clergy appeared 24 hours a
day. Statistics of the number of children and school staff dead, types and
number of weapons, the massacre timeline, political news conferences, and vast
number of pundits speculating about all aspects of the tragedy were repeated
regularly. Insensitive and unknowledgeable interviewers stuck microphones in
the faces of elementary school children only hours after they experienced a trauma
so severe that it brought many of us to tears. 

So here
comes Monday. You suspect some of the young children in your own community have
seen portions of the horror that occurred at Sandy Hook Elementary School. What
are you as a professional educator going to do now? What are you going to say
to your young students? How will you handle and direct the conversation of this
insane rampage at your K-4 school?

Our suggestions include:

1. Keep
   young children away from this topic and discussion as much as possible. Do not
   show them the news or images. Keep conversation to a minimum.


2. If
   a student brings it up, do not stop what you are doing to address the concern
   in front of the whole class. You will have some students who know nothing about
   this distressing incident. Say, "Arturo, I will talk with you about that in a
   few minutes. Let's finish our lesson in subtraction first." Go back immediately
   to the lesson you were teaching.


3. As
   soon as you are able have a private conversation with Arturo. Say, "Tell me
   what you know or heard." Then ask what he wants to know. The response you get
   from these questions can be used to guide your response. Answer the questions
   truthfully keeping your answer as simple as possible. If Arturo wants to know
   more he will ask.


4. The
   most helpful thing you can do for your students at this point is to help them
   feel safe and secure at your school. We suggest you do that without mentioning
   what happened in Connecticut.


5. Focus
   on what you do at your school to keep kids safe. Yes, review your "Staying Safe
   Drill." Practice it again. There is no need to say, "We are doing this because
   of what happened at Sandy Hook School."


6. If
   students in your classroom attempt to switch the conversation to what they saw
   or heard on TV, assure them they are safe here. Do not tell them you can't
   guarantee that some crazy person won't flip out. Do not give them a "pretty
   sure" type of answer. Young children do not understand percentages, law of
   averages, and probabilities. They see the world in black and white. Give them
   definitive information: "YES, YOU ARE SAFE HERE."


7. If
   someone asks what happened or wants to know why, tell them, "I don't know all
   of what was going on there. But I do know what we are doing here to keep all of
   you safe." Bring the conversation back to your local efforts to create safety
   and security at your school and in your classroom. The conversation around what
   happened in Connecticut is all speculation and conjecture right now. The facts
   and conclusions change hourly.


8. Explain
   how the adults at this school are a team, a family. Tell how the
   administration, teachers, and parents have worked together to create a safety
   plan. Explain, "We take care of each other here at this school. We look out for
   each other. That's why we all walk in the hall. It keeps us all safe. And we
   all get to be a part of that team and play our role."


9. Focus
   on the helpers. Lead a discussion about who helps us at this school, which we
   can turn to if we need help here. Make sure the list includes teachers,
   administrators, the psychologist, the nurse, the office staff, the custodian,
   tutors, the cooks, and the librarian. You can expand that list to add helpers
   from the community, including neighbors, police, firefighters, coaches, clergy,
   etc.

10.  Talk about ways each of these
important people help us and keep us safe. If you choose, have students each
pick one helper and write that person a thank you note. Draw pictures of each
helper and make a helpers bulletin board in your classroom so that the helpers
are visible and present.

11.  As much as possible stay away from
connecting any of this to the recent events in Connecticut. Make it be about
your students and the safety that exists in your classroom and school. Your
main goal is for your students to feel safe and secure at your school.

This is a
tragic time for all of us in this incredible profession. And a time to feel
proud. The teachers, staff, and helpers in Connecticut have shown the world
what we are capable of during unthinkable circumstances. We salute their
professionalism, dedication, and heroics as me mourn with and for them. God
bless them and all of you who do what you do day after day because you love
children.

Dr. Thomas Haller  and Chick Moorman are the authors of Parent
Talk Essentials.